I just found out something today after thinking for a very long time n looking around trying to learn more...There are bascially many differences between a guy n a gal...to make it click between them certain understanding have to at least be made understand so that they will have a lasting relation...looking around me n from other sources i can conclude just a lil about the differences...some of the typical differnces are like that the saying that guys are suppose to be like considered not being able to feel the hurt n pain dat gals do...that is by far so much from the truth...a guy feel the same thing as a gal do be it being hurt or happy but the problem is that guys are expected not to show it...there is just this unkown rule dat says guys cannot show their hurt or it will be seen as a sign of weakness...thats bullshit to me...being able to show ur emotions just shows that guys are onli human...guys are not an entirely differant species...gals seem to be expecting guys to be able to know wad to do all da time but to guys many of them will end up being confused n afraid to do the wrong thing so as not to hurt gals when they do the wrong stuff...guys have a hard time admitting that they need help...this is practically true for all of dem...there is the pride,the embarrasment of being unable to solve their own problem n dat to look for help is a sign of failure n being teased at...these are just some of the reasons y guys tend to be more gaurded wif their emotions n feelings...ppl always expect the guys to make the first move...but how hard is it to actually do so...when a guy have feelings for a gal...the first reaction will often be wierd...gals normally look up to guys to be in control of everything so it will put more pressure on guys to take the first move n make it right...many a times the fear of failure looms n just force the feeling to have to be suppress due to pressure from many differant sources...
Another rule is that it seems like gals are allowed to look at other guys n comment but when a guy does dat he gets hell from the gal or just makes the gal angry...It just doesnt seem fair dat gals get to become more "loose" in a sense n dat guys can onli focus on one gal...things should be equal for both sides...if a guy can take out his hundred percent n place everything on the gal that he likes the gal ought to be able to do so too...gals complain bout guys watching n flirting wif other gals without realising dat they themselves watch other guys many more times than guys watch other gals...(THIS ARE FACTS FROM A BOOK I READ!!) Guys have feelings dat can be hurt when a gal does dat but as usual...the rule that says cannot show it..it will be a sign of weakness...an embarassment if it is shown causing the guy just to take it all by himself...the guy will onli feel the pain by himself n end up gaurding his feelings to himself more in order not to be hurt as much again...but by doing so the gal assumes that due to this there have to be something wrong between them n end up making the realtion drift further apart when they get upset or unhappy because of the response...It will take a guy to understand how it feels...there is no other way it can be done...Instead of reactin this way...both sides should just work more on the future instead of keep looking back at the mistakes n wallowing in it...there are bout to be friction n a lil disagreements in a relation...no one can vouch for a smooth sailing...but after the bumps if all goes well...the feelings between the two indivduals will become stronger after knowing wad to do so as not to cause anyone to be hurt again...this is how it keeps it going...
The reason y i got wraped up in all dis guys stuff thingy vs gals was after reading a book today dat is very useful in telling many stuffs about this sort of stuffs...plus the fact on some personal problems dat i went through a while ago which i wont want to relive again makes it more significant to me dat the differences should be shown...Im not trying to list or blame gals in this post or anyone...im just comming to a conclusion after being backed by evidence...treat this as an informative piece of advice or information...anythign u want then...
P.S : i think dat if this topic comes out as compo for english paper i will do quite fine dont u think so?? :P after all i got his idea from a compostion dat i was doing :D